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August 16, 2011


CC girl

Aww this is so sad! It makes me think, aww don't worry I'll have sex with you! Of course I won't. And I am married. But you get the sentiment.

The Virginity Project

Im totally with you on this one, it practically cracked my heart in two reading this. I think hes very brave to express his feelings so eloquently and it makes me think hes much more of a man than he realises.

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Wow, that was pretty deep!

You are a good writer by the way, I like the virginity project concept... Good idea!

Natalie Vaught

"I'm living in a world where women rule, they decide who they want to sleep with not men."

How is that SAD?!? We DO have a right to say who we sleep with, and we are the ONLY ones who have a right to say who we sleep with. This guy needs to buck up, because the patriarchal idea that the man controls sex, and controls when and how he gets it and who with is a dead idea. As for virginity? That is an outdated social construct created by MEN to label us with some outdated and obscure idea of purity. Nonsense. You are just supporting your own oppression with comments like "aww, it breaks my heart..." "waa waa, it's not fair that girls decide not to sleep with me, I should be able to sleep with them if I want to..." Rape culture much?

The Virginity Project

Natalie, I hear you and agree with you on many points but I dont think this is your man. He didnt mean that men should choose whether or not women have sex with them. Rather he was making an observation about how it is primarily a womans choice whether or not sex takes place, as it should be. There are all sorts of retrogressive twats out there who feel perturbed by that but I think this guy justworded his thoughts a bit clumsily.

Natalie Vaught

I hope that is the case. I have come across posts that were worded pretty much the same, and they meant it how it was worded. I apologize for getting angry on your blog, but rape culture and slut shaming makes me furious. As does all misogyny.


Natalie Vaught hates men.

The Virginity Project

On the contrary Eugen, I think shes simply angry, as many women are that we live in a culture where 1 in 3 women in this world will be raped in their lifetime. And that an upcoming generation of youth are extremely flippant about that. Do you have sisters, a girlfriend or a mother? Because even if you are not a woman, this affects you too.

That Amazon was recently selling T-shirts that said Keep Calm and Carry on Raping is a worrying (not to mention stressful) development for most women. If the tables were turned, perhaps you might hate women but I think women, including Natalie Vaught - are pretty forgiving and flexible people on the whole. But that doesnt stop us from being angry. Dont get the two muddled up!

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