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  • Losing our virginity…it happens to almost all of us, no matter who we are or where we come from. How did it happen for you? Ever wondered what other people think and feel about this never-to-be-repeated experience? I am on a mission to find out. Follow my journey as I collect stories from as wide a selection of people as possible. From men and women, old and young, gay, straight, Christian, Muslim and Catholic, from the funny and the sad, to the happy and occasionally, the unbelievable. I am in search of the one story that we rarely share. Come and join my adventure.

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January 19, 2011


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He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life. Do you agree?

The Virginity Project

I most certainly do...but at the same time, we must all learn to take risks at our own pace...one step at a time!


I was almost into something alike.. Well there was somebody who I could hardly know, have met him a couple of times. We did not click but he wanted sex and I wanted sex as well. When it came to the 'right' moment, I felt like I'm under the pressure of making the seemingly natural decision which was in fact unnatural. I wanted him but I didn't like him like he was at this particular moment and apparently I would never like. I said 'no'. I was unhappy and had this funny feeling that it is me who did something wrong... so unfair to myself. Very toxic experience. Still not sure what it was all about. I'm glad I did not let us be together that night. I quited that straight after... Just knew it's going to get worse and worse emotionally. The most insecure situation ever! Unbelievable as it sounds and so common feeling among women I reckon, ending up with different decisions as I can see (whichever is right or not)... I thought it was about virginity but it was not. It is more about the self awareness, feeling comfy with your 'right' choices. If you don't trust even yourself, who you are going to trust then?

The Virginity Project

Thank you for such an insightful comment Kathleen. I think that learning to trust ones instincts is a process but the catch is that we do need to fuck up and make mistakes from time to time in order to hone this skill. Virginity loss is classic skill honing territory!

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