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December 17, 2008



Haha, that was short! It was rather abrupt, but it is interesting to see prostitution referenced in a positive light, as if a solution to a problem (virginity is not a problem, IMO, but it is perceived as one).


Why does Ben disrespect his sexuality? I believe in waiting until marriage, but if he wasn't going to wait until marriage, then couldn't he at least have saved himself for someone who was special to him? I feel sorry for people who throw away their virginity to prostitutes.
Why do guys who claim autism say that they're glad they're not virgins after casual sex? Is that another difference they have? I'd think that most guys would feel a bit empty after losing their virginity to a stranger, even if some would be able to move on quickly despite that.
I'm still rather skeptical of this "Asperger's" thing. There may be some legitimate cases, but much about the so-called criteria is ridiculous. Maybe I'll elaborate in another response if I get the chance. I don't know about Ben because I don't know him personally.
He leaves it unclear whether Diana was an escort. Even if not, he didn't know her very well and I think it's peculiar that a 34-year-old woman would have sex with an 18-year-old, especially one she just met. How does he know what her intent was?
Anyway, I don't like the idea of using sex to prove oneself, at least not before marriage, and I don't agree that anyone should "follow suit for a memorable sexual experience." His efforts would be better spent preserving his purity for his future wife.

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