Kate Monro is the author of Losing It: How We Lost Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years, published by Icon Books.

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  • Losing our virginity…it happens to almost all of us, no matter who we are or where we come from. How did it happen for you? Ever wondered what other people think and feel about this never-to-be-repeated experience? I am on a mission to find out. Follow my journey as I collect stories from as wide a selection of people as possible. From men and women, old and young, gay, straight, Christian, Muslim and Catholic, from the funny and the sad, to the happy and occasionally, the unbelievable. I am in search of the one story that we rarely share. Come and join my adventure.

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August 03, 2008


Charon QC

Kate.... Excellent post. I have been up to no good writing nonsense as usual.

Curiously, I am about to read Victoria Pynchon's Blawg review - the weekly carnival of law bloggers.

Good stuff - see you are still enjoying life - we will dine soon. I'll give you a call / vice versa?

West London Man - is getting more surreal - and bringing in some very amusing non-lawyers!


"shaking my head in puzzlement over the adult world I’d just entered. A world that was far less fraught with danger but much more complex and nuanced than I’d been capable of imagining."

that is exactly how i have been pondering and panicking over the past six months since i finally lost my virginity! for someone inexperienced and single, its a daunting new world indeed.

Kate Monro

One step at a time Someone, one step at a time!

Vickie Pynchon

for "someone" -- What I learned in the first six months of losing my virginity (albeit 40 years ago -- times may have changed):

1. If he's under 35, he REALLY DOESN'T care whether you want to have sex or not -- even if he loves you.

2. I could keep up with him until we hit the brick wall of month 4, after which I spent half a lifetime figuring out that it was just good common sense to keep your man happy (food and sex).

3. Marriage No. 1 -- sex never gets BETTER so if it doesn't START OUT with fireworks, best to move on to another guy.

4. Affairs are never worth the associated guilt; and eventually, handling more than one man is just TOO MUCH anyway.

5. Overall, sex gets better and better over time but not necessarily with the same man.

6. Practice, practice, practice -- especially on those odd days when you have nothing to do, nowhere to go and no one to see. Boredom is the mother of invention.

Best of luck!

Virginity Project

I have a sneaky feeling that 'someone' may actually be a boy....no matter, I still agree with Victoria on every point bar one.

'Sex never gets better if it doesn't start out with fireworks'....I have not always found this to be true, on the contrary, sometimes if you give a relationship room for sparks to develop, they can. Not always, but sometimes. Just a thought.

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