Its always a good day when one wakes up to find this type of email in one’s inbox. These are the moments that The Virginity Project lives for. Here it is…
‘Hi Kate.
In July, I wrote to you with some thoughts on sex, virginity and faith. You published it on your blog. Well, I'm now twenty and my life has been turned upside down. I have met a flaming atheist and fallen madly in love. I intend to sleep with him. In fact, I am in the process of losing my virginity to him right now and it is utterly unexpected - but delightful.
If you're interested, I can write you a reflection or two during this fascinating process. My outlook has changed quite a lot and having made a public statement, I feel I ought to make it again, with more practical evidence this time.'
Tori*
Am I interested? Er…just a bit. Last summer, ‘Tori’ wrote to explain her thoughts and feelings on the subject of virginity loss. Specifically hers. Tori is a committed Christian. Allow me to refresh your memory…
‘My choices about sex are religious choices, however, they are also personal, emotional and practical choices. I handed my virginity pledge in blank, because I object to that sort of manipulation and because I didn't feel like I was in any position to make that decision as a never been kissed fourteen year old.
I am single right now, but I have chosen in my relationships not to have sexual intercourse, and also not to engage in some of the many intimate forms of ‘outercourse’ (what a great word!). I intend to continue in ‘abstinence’, (also a problem word for me), perhaps until marriage and certainly until I find myself in a committed adult relationship with a long-term future.’
That time has come. Life has taken a turn for the unexpected. Better still, Tori intends to share it with us. Watch this space. I am editing as fast as my fingers will allow me!
* All names changed to protect identity
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