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  • Losing our virginity…it happens to almost all of us, no matter who we are or where we come from. How did it happen for you? Ever wondered what other people think and feel about this never-to-be-repeated experience? I am on a mission to find out. Follow my journey as I collect stories from as wide a selection of people as possible. From men and women, old and young, gay, straight, Christian, Muslim and Catholic, from the funny and the sad, to the happy and occasionally, the unbelievable. I am in search of the one story that we rarely share. Come and join my adventure.

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August 02, 2007



As someone who debated entering the priesthood...and is still a virgin in his thirties...I'd like to respond to their comments with the deference and respect that is due.

In short, is it possible that the hypocrisy and "holier than thou" attitude be any thicker? Who the bloody hell are they to infer why I read what I read? Between the sucking up and the attempts to be the most pithy and intellectual commenter (which is ALSO a spectator sport...Rene Girard?!)...thankfully there were a couple that allowed for a difference in opinion. I thank you both.

To respond to Girard, I'll quote Ambrose Bierce, "The world has suffered more from the ravages of ill-advised marriages than from virginity."

And to those who feel uncomfortable running against the grain, be it peer-pressure to have sex, religious intolerance, or sneaking out past midnight...my favorite quote (unattributed):
"Only dead fish go with the flow"

I'm done venting now...

Kate M

I rest my case.


"Which brings me back to the beginning of the story. Needless to say, I am fascinated by the concept of secondary virginity and I am itching to interview someone who possesses such an item."

I'm actually doing the whole secondary virginity thing right now. Have been for almost a year. I've just spent the evening talking to a friend about it, and I think that she's considering it too.

You mentioned something about British contacts, well I'm British, so please feel free to contact me if need be.

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